Scary!

OH. MY. GOD.
I find these wedding vows straight scary.
Looks like people think that loving someone is promising to never let him live a bit of his life free. NEVER.
This is not what loving someone should be, this looks more like a promise of damnation…

Much love ( the other one 😀 ),
HC

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13 thoughts on “Scary!

  1. calensariel July 23, 2015 / 4:52 pm

    Gives me chills down the back of my neck because his lordship and I struggle, struggle, STRUGGLE with this. Sometimes I feel like I just don’t have room to breathe. You simply CAN’T meet your spouse’s every need, especially emotional. It may take a village to raise a child, but I think it takes a village to have a healthy marriage, too, lest one partner becomes obsessed with the other. (IMHO) (or IM not so HO!)

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    • HeavyCloud July 23, 2015 / 6:42 pm

      Not only you can’t meet your spouse’s every need, you shouldn’t even try to. In a marriage (or any other union) the two individuals are as important and need the same space as the couple itself. It’s essential (IMNSHO) 😜😘❤️

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      • calensariel July 23, 2015 / 8:13 pm

        You know common mythology tells us marriage is two incomplete people coming together to make one whole union. I don’t believe that for a minute. If you’re both not whole in yourself when you come to the relationship, you better, by golly, expect a bumpy ride and hope that you both mature at the same time. It CAN work out but that’s what it ends up being a lot of the time — work. If one matures and out paces the other emotionally and individually, there’s BIG trouble ahead. (The Armchair Psychologist — me! 😀 ❤ )

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  2. booguloo July 24, 2015 / 8:36 am

    Did you write that vow? If you did you might want to write a books of wedding vows.

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    • HeavyCloud July 24, 2015 / 8:38 am

      Oh no, I found it on the Internet. But maybe one day I will try and write my own version of it… 🙂

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  3. V o n n a July 25, 2015 / 10:53 am

    I must be the ever present oddball. The two biggest things that made the entirety off was the unconditional acceptance and the “ever present” design. Read this again without those thoughts and in the mind set of a person deeply in love and it comes off as a willingness to be self-sacrificing for the others betterment. Just my two cents…

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    • HeavyCloud July 25, 2015 / 11:03 am

      Hahaha my favorite oddball! Of course you’re right, I didn’t mean to deny the deep feelings behind. But as far as my life and love experience led me, I wouldn’t feel comfortable with someone sacrificing herself for my betterment. Such kind of devotion can be at least deceiving, at worst a real jail for both. I feel like this could be a good subject for a all night, red wine enlivened talk… 😉

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      • V o n n a July 25, 2015 / 11:12 am

        Understandable when coming down from a love high. I myself having gotten past my failed sacrifice of self for anothers betterment regret nothing. It showed me myself. I learned what type of love I was willing and capable of giving. And if I can give such love I have absolutely no doubt in being worthy of receiving such. Thus, I won’t settle for the jail like circumstances that comes from doing less. In any relationship (friendship, romantically inclined etc.) effort and yes even sometimes sacrifice is required. Selfishness benefits no one not even the one being narcissistic. However, there is more happiness in giving than receiving. We already have evidence in the world of the consequences of one’s being selfishly engaged. And we know that’s not love.

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